How often do we find ourselves saying something without thinking? This is a common behavior when too much emotion builds up in us at one moment. There are quite a few ways to deal with excess emotion, but the most important element is to realize the power of words, which if uttered uncontrollably can have irreversible consequences. Patricia Kazadi talks about hate speech and the responsibility of words for the editors of GentleWoman Poland.
Table of Contents:
- Daily frustration
- How to deal with strong emotions?
- Online heckling
- Patricia Kazadi – about the hate
- Kazadi Talks Positive
- Let’s take care of each other
Everyday life perfectly manages to put you in a state of turbulent emotions. A late bus, traffic jams, a burnt lunch, an unsympathetic situation on city streets. Any of these seemingly trivial situations can lead many into anger and certainly frustration. When this frustration is stewed for too long, it is eventually discharged. Unfortunately, most often in inappropriate situations and on innocent people. This in turn causes a string of subsequent unpleasant situations. How to avoid it?
How to deal with strong emotions?
In order to learn to deal with strong emotions, one must begin to distinguish between emotions. It is worth asking yourself – what do I feel? Name the emotion that is strongest for us at any given moment and go back to its beginning. Analyzing the situation that put us in a given mood can not only help with the situation of nerves, but also help avoid similar experiences in the future. What impact do you have on a given situation, why did it make you feel bad, how could you react, and what can help you now and in the future – these are a few simple questions that have great power to make a difference.
Once the source of the problem is known to us, we can take it a step further. An effective way to calm emotions is meditation. However, in the rush to work, it’s hard to find time for it. Relaxing effects often come from good memories – perhaps delving into the thought of a recent vacation will make it easier to get out of negative emotions?
Another magic wand is music – a cheerful melody, favorite lyrics or classical sounds attract completely different thoughts, at the same time causing us to forget the unpleasantness faster.
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The Internet is filled with websites, portals, magazines and social media accounts. Unfortunately, it’s not hard to come across gossipy content that often has nothing to do with reality. They fill the reader’s time with negativity, while hurling the worst insinuations at celebrities. Juicy news from the lives of others circulates the world in the blink of an eye. An ill-fitting dress, an uneven eye line, weight gain, weight loss, a failed marriage, a premarital slip-up….
These and many other similar topics display themselves to users on the web repeatedly. However, on the other side of this hate machine are people who have feelings, sensitivity and their threshold of endurance. One comment can trigger a wave of tears. Another article about a person will ignite depressive states. School “docking” will contribute to complexes. It is worth realizing this, our every act and word will always leave a mark.
Patricia Kazadi – about the hate
In an interview with GentleWoman Poland journalist Patricia Kazdi admitted that she has received a tremendous amount of heckling from the media, but she already sees improvements at this point and is not giving up hope that things are moving toward the good.
“A lot of people ask how I, who has experienced most of this hegemony firsthand, can say that there is a huge change. I can, because it is. I enjoy every change, even the smallest one, and celebrate it and promote it so that these changes go further. I’m all for keeping things moving in the right direction. It seems to me that the fashion for haying and for spilling one’s bile will pass, and I firmly believe this, and it is towards this that I create projects such as Kazadi Talks Positive, where I encourage people to distinguish between opinions and hate. To reflect on the fact that our words have a force of destruction that is unimaginable, that can drive a person to the extreme. We don’t want to live with that kind of responsibility, so it’s important to take care of ourselves and look in the mirror to see if surely the person in the reflection is the person we want to be.”
Kazadi Talks Positive
The Kazadi Talks Positive Project is a project that addresses the topics of self-acceptance and body shaming. Patricia Kazadi meets with psychologists and her followers on her Instagram, where she shares her story and educates others. However, the project turned out to have so much positive feedback that it was expanded to include face-to-face meetings. In this way, she reaches out to schools or meetings for women.
Let’s take care of each other
Each of us is part of social life and thus has a certain responsibility. Our task, then, is to learn how to communicate properly and take care of our own and others’ comfort. It is worthwhile to pay attention to heterist behavior, educate others and surround yourself with goodness. Let’s not be passive. Let’s take care of ourselves.