Is every nice guy a simp – who is a simp?

A man who is too nice, who does too much, naïve, overzealous towards women… These are just some of the characteristics meant to characterize a simpa. Although, despite appearances, this is not a new term, it has recently gained enormous popularity on the Internet. For many people, especially younger ones, it is simply a fashionable insult and a harmless joke. For others, however, it’s another way to polarize society. What is it really like? Is every nice guy a simp?

 

The term “simp” is one of those that evolves and changes its meaning very quickly. It can be understood in different ways – depending on the generation to which the person using it belongs.

In 1923. this word appeared in the New York Times. It was originally defined as an abbreviation for “simpleton,” meaning “fool,” “simpleton,” “gullible.” 

Simp gained greater popularity in the 1980s. i 90. Then rappers began using it in their song lyrics, such as. Too Short and E-40 – already as a term for someone unmanly. In 1999. Three 6 Mafia explained that it found the word highly offensive. For him, simp was the opposite of pimp.

The word simp is believed to be an acronym for the phrase “Somebody [lub sucker] Idolizes Mediocre Pussy.” It is in free translation “Someone [lub frajer] idealizing average d*ps”.

The online slang dictionary urbandictionary.co.uk has several user-added definitions. “Someone who does too much for the person he likes”, “when a man is excessively submissive to a woman and gains nothing”. – these are just some of them.

In the Polish slang dictionary urban.pl, the definition has the most likes: “a term for a man who shows a servile attitude towards a woman without being in a relationship with her. He puts her on a pedestal, praises her and often showered her with gifts or paid for her whims.”

The term became particularly popular in early 2020. It was meant to be an innocent insult to men who put a woman at the center of their world and will do anything to get her attention. Theoretically, it defined an unhealthy relationship.

How is it currently? Any man who helps a woman, supports her or treats her with kindness in circles that adhere to a conservative view of the world becomes a simpleton.

In one of the popular sites you can read a lot of comments on the subject, such as “men who still ingest bluepill and believe this nonsense that the chick will love you for your help, when will you wake up?”.

Ordinary kindness and benevolence are sometimes equated with weakness, stripped of manhood or naiveté.

The word “simp” is therefore exclusionary. Why can it hurt? You can read more about inclusive language and how important the right vocabulary is on GentleWoman in the article The world is not black and white.

“Simp comes from a paradigm in which men and women are in a constant struggle for power … and they may think that to be a man, one must always have an advantage over women. Being a simp is seen as the opposite of that. When we are simply ashamed, we send a message to men that caring about the fate or well-being of women is not a manly thing to do. But it should be the exact opposite: not caring is unmanly,” says Destin Gerek, author of The Evolved Masculine.

Although the word “simp” for many people is just a simple insult and an innocent joke, according to experts it has a second bottom. It has the potential to further polarize and perpetuate stereotypes. Is it worth following trends from social media that are potentially hurtful? At GetleWoman, we think definitely not.

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